What I Know About Love Now ♥️

And 5 Non-Negotiables That I’m Carrying Into My Next Relationship

This post is not about why I got divorced—been there, done that, you can read about that here. Quite frankly, I think it’s annoying when something happens to a person and then it becomes their entire personality for years. Don’t worry, I’m not that person.

This is a post about self-reflection—it’s a deep look inside my 13-year marriage and the critical learnings I’ve pulled from it to take into my next partnership. I am a firm believer that every relationship makes you better for what’s to come.

So whether you’re here to read some intimate details of my marriage or to reflect on your own relationship—or what you want from one—this post is for YOU.

And while perfection doesn’t exist, alignment does. Love shouldn’t make you feel on edge 24/7, nor should it require you to abandon yourself.

So let’s dig in. These are the 5 key non-negotiables that I am carrying into my next relationship.

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1. I need to be liked, not just loved.

People think love is enough. It’s not. You can love someone and still not enjoy them. You can share a home, raise kids, make it to anniversaries… all while feeling quietly resented for who you are.

Reality—Greg loved me, but he didn’t like me. I loved him, but I didn’t like him. So how did we end up together in the first place?